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the death of a party.



That's it? That's all I get? The wedding day came and went in a flash, and I have been in a haze for the past few days. I feel like I was hit full force with a mack truck of love from friends, family and of course - okay, this is going to be weird, this is the first time I'm saying this - my husband. Does this make me like a real adult now? Scary...

So I never really understood why weddings have been designated the "happiest day" of our life. Something about it always came across to me as a little dramatic (I know, look who's talking here). But you know what? Now I get it. While I couldn't confirm it as being the happiest day of my life (after all, I still have a few more days in this one - God willing), I will say it was by far the most fun day I have ever had. Really. I have never laughed, cried, and have been so happy to see people that I "lurve". My stomach is sore from laughing, my head is overflowing with memories, comments and jokes, and my jaw is swollen from the permanent smile I had on my face for the entire week of festivities. The people in my life are insane...and I love it.

Pictures are still coming in, our photographer is still editing, and e-mails from guests recapping encounters (some with "full documentation" videos) that I missed out are trickling into my inbox. I knew that the French know how to get down, don't get me started on the Americans, but when these two groups get together washed down with copious amounts of booze and dance music? Let's just say it got a little scandalous. 

I will break down the wedding post by post starting with our chaotic morning but for today I need one last day to look back on everything. What is with this post-wedding depression? Is this normal?  

At least it's not just me, even my decorations are sad....

My fresh mint and baby's breath bouquet commiserating with the soon-to-be swept up baby blue confetti.

Balloon suicide.

Did you know that helium only lasts 10 hours in nylon balloons?
I didn't.
A wedding day is no excuse to stop learning new things.


The last balloon and disco ball conspiring against the finality of the Sunday after.

42 comments:

  1. It was a fabulous wedding! So pleased to have been a small part of it. I will be blogging soon and sending you photos off-blog (bit tricky at the mo since I don't have a laptop at home).

    Only you could make dying balloons look poetic. I'm sure it's normal to have a bit of a post-wedding come-down, but I know you'll soon be revelling in married life! Well, I don't think I'm a real adult yet either, but hope you don't need a husband to be one, because failing on that, clearly! xxx

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    1. Thanks Gwan! I'm so glad that you were a big part of it! Thank you for all of your help Saturday morning when things were getting a little crazy.

      I'm getting back into the swing of things now that I'm back at work and Becky is still here. My exhaustion is finally wearing off. I look forward to your take on the wedding! For me it was all a blur!

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  2. HOORAY!!!!!!!

    Oh, I am so super thrilled for you both--and admit that I have been checking for the last few days, eager to hear how it went! :) Will look forward to getting the details, when you can...

    A day full of love and laughter? Sounds pretty perfect to me.

    You are a married lady now! heehee
    Bisous,
    Heather

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    1. Thank you Heather!!

      I had been wanting to start sharing the wedding and have been drafting a post for a few days but my eyes wouldn't let me concentrate - all they wanted was sleep. I have been so exhausted but am finally getting back on track. I'm ready to "return to normalcy" to fill you in on the day. I have some good stuff to share!

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  3. Oh, my heart swells for you :) congratulations!!!

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  4. it was so wonderful!! i'm so glad we were there and part of the big celebration. i got chills when reading "my husband." i remember how it was a bit weird at first. and yes so many people have post-wedding blues but it goes away pretty quickly :) can't wait for the detailed recaps!

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    1. Thank you so, so, so much for coming!! It was so nice to see you and Sir L. Oh btw, EVERYONE (including me) loved your dress! You looked great!

      Recaps coming... ; )

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  5. it was so wonderful!! i'm so glad we were there and part of the big celebration. i got chills when reading "my husband." i remember how it was a bit weird at first. and yes so many people have post-wedding blues but it goes away pretty quickly :) can't wait for the detailed recaps!

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  6. Ha! THE HAZE! Ryan and I slept for about 16 hours straight the day after our wedding. I couldn't even form sentences. We were so exhausted emotionally and physically. I can't say I was depressed (I have this weird thing about wanting to get back to "real life" any time I do anything that's not a part of my routine -- blame it on my anxiety disorder), BUT I was definitely hazy. You'll snap out of it soon! Have a little red and go do something that feels "normal" ;)

    So happy for you! Can't wait to see more photos! xoxoxx

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    1. Yes! The HAZE! No one ever tells you about this part! It's worn off and now we're enjoying going through photos and watering the many flowers that as turned our living room into an arboretum. We're ready to get back to normal life - with work, Aurelien's birthday today, French mother's day and ANOTHER wedding on Saturday, I'd say we're well on our way!

      Photos will be coming! Can't wait to share with you all. xoxo!

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  7. Congratulations! It sounds like it was a great time, and I can't wait to read more!

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    1. Thank you Shannon!! Long time no "speak"! How are you???

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  8. AnonymousMay 22, 2013

    I'm so glad you had a great day Lisa! We had such a blast!! I also got chills when reading 'my husband'. :) So sweet!

    Who knew about the balloons, indeed! Yikes. But hey, at least you've got pretty, poetic pictures from them. :) You're such an artist!

    I've also been checking in, impatient to hear your thoughts and recaps! I'm glad you're resting and taking your much-needed time though.

    Congratulations encore to you both! Much love xox

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    1. Thank you so much for making the trip, Dana!! It meant a lot to me. I'm so glad that you hit it off with some of my friends. I love when that happens. I'm glad we got to do it up NY style, woop woop! I was a sweaty pig by the end of the night from dancing. I cringe at the end of evening photos that I keep freaking get tagged in on Facebook. Ha! All in good fun though.

      Thank you again. It was a pleasure to finally meet you.

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  9. We liked your post a lot!!

    http://habitatparisien.wordpress.com/blog/

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  10. Congrats, glad it all went well! Giggling at the balloon suicide though ;o)

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    1. Katy...the balloons hung themselves on their own. Not even kidding. They were in our tent and by Sunday afternoon, they had hung themselves on that tree. Like I said, it wasn't only me who didn't want it to end. He he he.

      Thanks for the congrats!

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  11. A week of festivities, right on!:)

    I think it's fairly common for brides to feel depressed after their weddings. Some have been planning it their whole lives and have nothing to look forward to after the Bid Day. Take a couple of weeks to bask in the happy memories, and then on to the next project!:)

    (See, when you get married in front of a photocopier in a notary's waiting room so you can get a marriage certificate to live overseas, you don't have that problem!;) For us, the exciting thing was to move overseas together, it was never about the wedding (had it not been for my foreign assignment, we'd still be happily shacked up and would most likely never have gotten married:)) I know: I'm a hopeless romantic;)

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    1. I think the post-wedding funk is wearing off. Aurelien has been working non-stop, his birthday is today, we have another wedding on Saturday and I already went back to work where my kids have been more entertaining than ever. I think we're back in the swing of things.

      Hahahaha you didn't have post-photocopier-in-a-notary's-office-depression? Wow! You really are a tough cookie! :P Too funny.

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  12. AnonymousMay 23, 2013

    I totally felt the same way! We didn't leave on our honeymoon until a few days after the wedding too, so there was time to think, dwell, feel a bit nostalgic for two days ago ... you know, that sort of thing.

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    1. I'm glad I'm not the only one! It's kind of like "oh...now what?". We're not leaving for our honeymoon until August, so for us it was back to work, back to life. I think the contrast was a bit extreme for us. Thanks for commenting!

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  13. Not the post I was expecting! You are amazing and amazingly honest. Like you say, the wedding is ultimately just a party (albeit a fantastic one, where you are a film star!) but the important bit starts afterwards and I'm sure you will have a long and happy marriage. Congrats and all best wishes. GM x

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    1. You know me! What were you expecting, a lovey dovey post with Aurelien cradling my face of eternal love? As if! I'll put up some wedding photos soon! Thank you so much for your kind comment. I'm so happy your daughter was a part of the celebration!

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  14. Oh I thought I had posted form my phone yesterday!...note to self. Don't reply on your phone.

    So Hurray...I have been waiting for this post. I am glad you had such al lovely time and were not so stressed out you could not enjoy yourself. I think weddings should be fun and joyful, to celebrate love and it sounds like this one was. In my experience the best weddings are the less traditional and formal ones. But it doesn't matter if it is in front of a photocopier or in a cathedral it's how you feel that matters and you two clearly love each other.

    You will be able to re live the whole thing via photos and videos...and yes feeling a bit of anticlimax is normal, that is what honeymoons are for.

    After vowing never to get married again and cohabiting with Michael for 12 years, I finally succumbed to commitment. THEN I really understood what a difference a marriage ceremony made, of course this is subjective but for me it made a difference.

    Love Denise

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    1. Good to know that commenting from your phone isn't always reliable because guest what?? As a wedding gift, Aurel is getting me my very first smart phone!! I'm going to be cool like you guys!

      I hate to admit it but I was stressed in the beginning, something I swore I wouldn't be. I tried to keep myself in check but there were times I let it overcome me. After some food, conversation and of course champers, I mellowed out. : )

      Thanks for your comment. I'm glad you're enjoying these wedding posts. I was worried that you all would be over this wedding stuff! After next week, I'll go back to our regularly scheduled program. : )


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  15. AnonymousMay 23, 2013

    Dear Ella (my favorite blog writer :), I've been reading your blog since the day I knew that my family and I were going to Paris. I got hooked and am currently reading your posts from September 2012. But now I was so curious that I did something I don't normally do when reading a novel - jumping to the last (or in this case, fortunately, not 'last' but 'most recent') page! I am so happy for you and Aurélien. Congratulations! You'll get used to calling him 'husband' (mari :), so enjoy the novelty factor while it lasts :) Though it will forever warm your heart to talk about your 'husband'.

    I know now why you love Paris so much, it is a magical place. Thank you for writing this blog, which I ended up reading much more than an actual travel guide. I have to say that, every now and then, I was even wondering whether I'd see you somewhere in Paris :)

    Again, congratulations and all the best to the two of you. Married life in Paris is going to be wonderful.

    anne

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    1. Hi Anne!

      Wow, thank you so much for this sweet comment! I'm glad you're enjoying the blog, I know it's not your typical Paris blog, so I thank you for stopping by. : )

      Yes, saying husband is so weird and fun and the same time. Aurel actually did like a happy dance when he called me his wife the other day, so I'm glad it's not only me who is enjoying the novelty.

      Thank you for the well wishes and enjoy your first few months in Paris!! I'll have to hop over to your blog to see exactly where you are in the "journey". Last I checked you weren't here yet...

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  16. So many congratulations to you both!!!

    The South Asians have the perfect solution to the "this is it??!!" situation: have a 3-day wedding ;)



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    1. 3 day wedding?? WOW! Now, that's more like it! You must be exhausted by the end! Oh la la. How is YOUR planning going? You still have a few months before the OMG moments start happening. Enjoy the pre-wedding bliss, these days are just as magical and important as the actual day. : )

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  17. Let me rephrase, i LURVE this. WHY YA GOTTA MAKE IT END!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    1. As they were taking the ramp away and popping balloons...SO SAD!

      Thank you for participating in a weekend of laughs, scorching, Homeland and "Dara Golden". ; )

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  18. Congratulations "Mrs."!!

    Can't wait to see your pictures as a beautiful bride. I love happy endings and your story certainly has one, BUT, I know this is not an ending but a beginning of lots of wonderful and happy things.

    Cheers!!

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    1. Thank you Sylvia!!!

      Yes, this is just the beginning, but you're right, it is a happy ending. The end of one story as I open up a new one. : )

      Thank you again. xo.

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  19. Congratulations Ella! happy ends ^_^.

    You are officially a french wife :D

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    1. Uh-oh, I'm a French wife now! Does that mean I now have to follow the "rules" of those crazy articles on being a French wife? As if! Hahaha! Have you ever read any of those? Highly entertaining...

      Thank you for the well wishes, Mlle!

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    2. Yes! they are hilarious!
      I've read this blog from beginning to now and i don't think you're one to follow the "rules"

      A bientot!

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  21. Congratulations!!! I very much look forward to all your upcoming recaps and photos of the big day:)

    I know exactly how you are feeling. No one prepares you for how you may feel after everything is said and done. I loved everything about my wedding weekend, wedding, and reception and was sad it was over so quickly.

    Cheers to the rest of your life side-by-side with your partner in crime!

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    1. Aww thank you Alyson! Now I don't feel crazy feeling a little down the days proceeding the wedding. It also didn't help that it's been cold and rainy, and all of my friends left. You're so right, no one prepares you! It's like "hey, where did everybody go?"

      Thank you for the warm congrats and I hope you enjoy the wedding photos!

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  22. The party is only beginning... xx

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