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For having such a non-traditional wedding, I still wanted to follow the "something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue" custom. I know, call me old-fashioned. I ended up cheating a bit by combining my something old and something borrowed, which was my mother-in-law's wedding band because we didn't get ours in time. My something new was my cardigan...

And my something blue was....

    

Ta da!

You thought my dress would have some pink in it, didn't you? I don't blame you, look at the pink fest that is this blog! 

Since our engagement was non-traditional so to speak, as well as many aspects of our life, I figured why not play up the the idea of a white wedding with a splash of color. The sky blue veil was actually a last minute decision that my neighborhood tailor generously made for me as a gift. He is a kind Turkish man that even when I don't have pants that my short legs need to have altered, I stop in from time to time for a cup of coffee and a chat. Offering me this iconic bridal accessory was unexpected and extremely touching, adding another facet to the homemade feel of our entire wedding.

Leaving the town hall after the ceremony, we were greeted by many of the villagers who came down with their umbrellas to wish us well, and residents hollered and whistled from their homes as we passed by. 


Typically the tradition is that the bride and groom take the car back to the vin d'honneur while the guests follow by foot. Well my mom wasn't interested in another tour of Moret by foot, and helped herself to the front seat of the Rolls next to the horn-friendly driver. Every cutesy photo of us in the back seat of this vintage car features an awkward candid shot of my mother making all sorts of faces. I wish there was video rolling because each photo surely would have a comment.

We arrived at our rainy garden cocktail party with the front pieces of my hair starting to frizz up from the mist-like rain, and waited under a green Del Monte umbrella (yes, the pasta brand, and no they didn't sponsor the wedding) to welcome our guests. I have no idea where this umbrella came from but my mother made sure to remind me that it said Del Monte several times during the evening. I actually think she brought up the umbrella again last night over the phone.

So much time, energy, ideas and planning went into the entire weekend and it was just surreal that it was finally happening. I now understand why brides get stressed and anxious, and  feel a little guilty for secretly judging brides of my past who were wired up on their day.

So who would have thought that I'd learn something new on my wedding day? Because this was the first French wedding I have ever attended, it was unknown to me that the guests are forbidden to approach the bar for drinks and snacks until the bride and groom have had their first drink, almost like a ribbon-cutting to start the festivities. Well...it took me a good fifteen minutes to realize that no one was consuming anything, and having almost a face-off with our servers who weren't serving. I didn't want to be the pushy one to get the first drink so I walked around and chatted while Aurélien was...actually, I have no idea where he was. Details like this are blurry, as the day went by in almost a haze.

It wasn't until Paris Unraveled Allison (who also graciously made us real American cupcakes to supplement our dessert offering) informed me that we needed to christen the event with the first drink, and to announce that the bar was open before guests could help themselves. Ah ha! Had I known this, I would have gone straight for the bar, instead of leaving my guests standing in a wet garden in the rain as I made rounds not knowing where my husband was.

The vin d'honneur was the most relaxing part of the day - no big stories to tell here - the music was calming, conversation was flowing and the drinks were strong. The rain actually encouraged mingling and interaction due to the fact that tent space was limited, and friends from different aspects of our lives were rubbing elbows. Aside from seeing a server set down your food at a restaurant, the best feeling ever is seeing people you love and respect get along and make a connection beyond you as the common thread. As for us, we were finally offered a moment to actually talk to people. 

After almost two years of e-mails and blog comments, it was so lovely to finally meet Grenobloise. Not every bride meets a dear friend on her wedding day, but once again going back to not following traditions, I guess we were staying true to the theme. It was also wonderful to see Out and About in Paris' Mary-Kay and her family, The Kale Project and her husband, as well as friends who started this French journey with me at Alliance Française New York who made the trip all the way to France. Very much there in spirit was Sara Louise of Le Petit Village, Pictours Paris, Paris Cheapskate and of course...Duchesse. 

Our nod to Annie Hall with the words "Lurve" were originally hanging on the clothes line in the garden, but the rain wasn't having it. It was thanks to our quick-thinking coordinator who set them out on the bar for us. Merci! How sad would it have been to see drenched hearts dangling on a cord at a wedding?
Paper straws with little notes from the bride and groom.
I swear these little devils are the reason why everyone got so blitzed. The booze may have gone down a little too easy!

Spiked lemonade, c'est coquin!

 
A vodka-based mojito.


I'm wrapping up these wedding posts with one last to go and then it's back to my real Parisian life. I'm sure some of you are relieved! If I was bummed a few weeks ago that the wedding excitement was over, I'm here to report that that melancholy has since faded (as many of you had promised). Now that the big project of 2013 is thankfully behind me, I'm back to being me again where big decisions are no longer what font should we use, how big are the entree plates, and if navy blue is really that different than marine blue. I must have been so boring! No really, I think I just fell asleep writing that sentence....

 I'm now looking forward to the future and to a new beginning.
Thank you all for embracing our joy these past few posts.

Photography by Camille Collin

35 comments:

  1. Blue veil... quelle coquine, indeed!:) Love the twist on an old tradition:)

    Oh yes, the Duchesse was there in spirit, the whole day:) And she has the emails to prove it!;)

    I've even heard brides say that they were either so stressed out or so beat on their wedding day that they didn't enjoy it. Judging from your beamins smile on your pics, that was not your case:)

    Don't worry about boring us with the wedding pics and details:) I think everybody's loving them!:)

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    1. You were totally there! You would have gotten a kick out of my mom. She produced some good lines that night.

      The stress came on a few times but quickly dissolved. We had a good team helping us out. So I can say that I did enjoy the wedding!

      When you're here in Paris again (which would be when? : )), we'll do a mini celebration! : )

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  2. Oh... and the two of you are impossibly photogenic!:))

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  3. Love the blue touch! Such an awesome idea, and it looks so pretty! I did not know that either about the vin d'honneur (having never been to a French wedding either). Also, I went to school one summer with Allison. Small world!

    Sounds like such a beautiful time! I'm definitely not at all bored with your wedding posts! Keep them coming!

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    1. Thank you Shannon! I like the idea of a splash of color to add an element of fun.

      You know Allison?? How funny!! Her and her husband are very good friends of ours. I actually met her at the tax office where we used to work two years ago. We started our sites around the same time. The expat world is tiny!

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    2. Yep! The extent of contact since our summer at Middlebury in Vermont has pretty much been limited to Facebook, but I ate with her many a time that summer.

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  4. You ARE an original, no doubt about that!

    I love the touch of blue everywhere. It looks like you guys had tons of fun celebrating with friends and family and I think that's the way a wedding should be.

    And like Duchesse said, don't worry about boring us, you're far from boring.

    PS: Love the second pic where you seem to be wanting to catch a bubble in your mouth. LOL
    Both you and your husband look gorgeous and happy!

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    1. Thank you Sylvia! We wanted to something different. The NY wedding we were supposed to have was going to be super traditional, so we were happy to have carte blanche to do it our way here in France.

      I'm glad you are enjoying these posts. It's nice to document such a fun day.

      Thank you for all of your comments. : )

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  5. I've been loving reading about this too. If you want to keep on "boring us" for a bit longer, feel free!

    Your wedding looks beautiful and you both seem so happy in the pictures. It's lovely!

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    1. Aww, thank you so much! Weddings are tricky, you know? Some people really hate hearing/reading about them, so I'm trying to be sensitive to everyone, sort of a giving a head's up that the end is near. : )

      It pleases me that you're enjoying them though, so I thank you!

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  6. LOVED this post! And, no, you are never boring. Got such a surprise seeing the blue, as I had just seen the first coloured pic over on Gwan's blog, and hadn't spotted the blue - I think my brain just didn't register something so unusual. I love it - you not only look stunning, but unique, too (but of course!). GM x

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    1. Thank you, Gwan's Mom! The blue in the photo on Gwan's blog is a little washed out from the windows, so it was easy to miss!

      Thank you so much for this comment! You guys are all making me feel so special. I'm blushing. : )

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  7. Absolutely love the dress! And given how merry some of the guests got, maybe waiting 15 minutes to kick off the drinking was a good thing - hee hee :oD

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    1. Thanks, Katy!

      Hhahaha yes "merry". That's a nice way of putting it. Unfortunately, I can't blog about some of the scandalous behavior that the party brought on. Such a shame! I guess I'll save it for the book!

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  8. Argh, since I knew the colour I didn't even realise that you hadn't done the big reveal yet! Thought the b&w was just being artsy. I didn't notice the cute lurve hearts either - never put a cutesy detail between a girl and her cocktails!

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    1. No worries on the "big reveal", I'm not Madonna over here. Plus it's hard to tell that I'm blue in the photo on your blog where you're popping out of my suitcase! : )

      Loved your post, by the way! It was nice to see your perspective!

      Was it just me or were those cocktails strong?

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  9. The blue was an inspired choice. Not boring at all.....I think most of us love weddings and yours was a beauty. So glad you enjoyed it.

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    1. Thank you! There's something so fresh about sky blue, don't you think? Pink was never even an option, if you can believe it!

      Thank you for your sweet comment. : )

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  10. As a cardigan wearer myself I love, love the sweater...and the blue veil....tres charmant.

    you both look very happy and that's the bottom line...

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    1. A cardigan wearer, are you?;)

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    2. Cardigans forever! They make an outfit, don't they? I swear by them.

      The cardi was also a last minute choice - once we realized that it was going to be chilly. We found it at a discount store out in the country for 12 euros. : )

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  11. Beautiful dress! I love it. And congratulations Madame ;)

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  12. AnonymousMay 30, 2013

    I love this post, I loved your dress, your decor, your everything! I was completely awe-struck. You're right; the rain did make it easier to chat with more people (that's how I ended up chatting with you mom for the 1st time!). I'm glad your wedding blues have faded away. And thanks for the mention! Once again, I'm honored to have been there! The highlight of my time in France for sure! It was the perfect full circle since having 1st communicated with you 2 years ago!

    I actually had no idea about the vin d'honneur tradition either! And I had a great time chatting with Allison while getting happy with your yummy and creative cocktails and hor d'oeuvres. :)

    GROS BISOUS XX

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    1. Ah! You met my mom too! So fun!! I hope you two had a nice chat with her. She had fun meeting everyone.

      Thank you so much. I'm glad you liked everything and had fun! I have photos coming your way. : )

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    2. AnonymousMay 31, 2013

      Photos, oh goodie! I would like to blog about meeting you as well if it's cool with you.. I only have a iPhone pic of the table setting that I can put on my blog so far if you're ok with it.. (and a pic of us Flo took which I won't put online.. will send it to you!).
      Your mom is awesome!

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    3. Of course you can blog about it! Avec plaisir! xo.

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  13. AnonymousMay 30, 2013

    P.S. I was waiting for the big reveal! I knew it was coming with your previous b&w photos and all!

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  14. Lisa, this is one of the nicest wedding albums I have seen. ^You both look so relaxed and happy despite the rain and nothing was going to spoil your day.

    I am also so pleased to see so many blogger friends there. If like me blogging has become a big part of your life and social contacts it is how it should be.

    Love it all, the beautiful dress, the informality of it all. After following your blog and all your ups and downs it is so nice to see you happy as you deserve..... and no the details have never been boring.

    Along and happy life and a virtual toast.

    Love Denise

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    1. The rain added something to the day. The photos are so cute with all of the umbrellas. I'm glad we invested in a heated tent for the reception, we were almost going to chance it but knowing how fickle the weather is here in France, we thought better of it.

      Thank you for this note! We all had a good time, everyone got nice and buzzed. I don't remember laughing so much in my life. Our friends and family really made it so special!

      Ups and downs indeed. It's nice to see everything come full circle after a "colorful" past two years.

      Thank you again, Denise.

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  15. I love your dress idea.
    So unconventional but gorgeous.
    You guys are super cute together (need to stop calling him Sebastian lol)

    Cant wait to read about the fun stories that are yet to come.

    You're my daily dose of "chick-lit" :p

    À la prochaine!

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    1. Thank you! I love the idea of adding a splash of color and pale blue seemed just too perfect.

      Chick-lit! AH! LOVE IT! Thanks for making my day! : )

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  16. Love the bubbles and blue veil and gorgeous little details! What a lovely wedding. Congrats to both of you! :)

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  17. I was there in spirit, I was! Even though at the time you were getting married, I was screaming my head off at a rugby match, I was thinking of you from time to time :) x

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