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Stressed about the wedding? Qui moi? Of course not, I would smugly respond when asked that the weeks and months preceding the wedding. I thought I was exempt from the madness that weddings tend to incite because we wanted a simple reception. Why would we be stressed out? Well ha ha on me because the day of the wedding was like New York and Paris Fashion Week combined with the launch of an E-Commerce site. Absolute chaos. 

It started with my miscalculation of the commute to my hair salon, my appointment going longer than expected, the 8 minute wait on the platform for both the line 7 and 6 (it was Saturday morning, not Christmas for pete's sake!), and the trains dragging ass through the tunnels. Once again it was made painfully clear that Paris is not your friend when you're running late. 

Arriving back at my apartment in a frenzy, I made a beeline straight to my bedroom breezing past Kitty, Samantha, Dr. Becky, Gwan, Belle and Stina who were entertaining themselves with the wine and crémant I left in the fridge for them. Before launching into the twelve hour string of events, I sat down on my bed to allow myself to take in deep inhales. As I'm reminding myself to try to absorb as much of the day as possible, Stina walks in with a cocktail in her hand, kneels beside me with her arm around me, and calmly asks if I would like a Xanax. God, I love people who live in L.A. As tempting as it sounded at the time, it just would have been a bad idea. The wedding certainly would have taken on a different theme had the bride been hopped up on pills. Since I was going for more Elaine from The Graduate than Neely O'Hara, I skipped the "dolls" and had a glass of bubbly to calm my nerves and to remind myself that the wedding is not going to start without me. An obvious fact that amazingly, I was having great difficulty accepting.

With twenty minutes to get to Gare de Lyon, we booked it to the metro - a runaway bride followed by her mother, a pack of loud American girlfriends and their roller-board suitcases in tow. It didn't look like we were going to my wedding as it looked like we were escaping it. Truly a cinematic moment that was begging for soundtrack music to accompany it.


Photo courtesy of Gwan

Photo courtesy of Gwan
Once on the train, with three minutes to spare, Gwan pulled out another bottle of crémant that they picked up while I was at the salon, and we took turns passing it around. An old woman sitting diagonal from me, who I was expecting to receive judgmental glances from gave me - the bride swigging alcohol in her wedding dress on a suburban train to the French countryside - an approving smile. At least that's how I chose to read it.

Once we were settled in and comfortably buzzed, I allowed the stress to dissolve for the 50 minute train ride and enjoyed a moment that I will most likely never happen again. Sharing this slice of my life, an otherwise mundane activity of a commuter train was brought to life by the voices and animation of my closest friends who are my family.

As chaotic as the first installment of the wedding was, it was true to what life is about, expecting the unexpected. I wouldn't have had it any other way...


36 comments:

  1. J'adore lire ces instants que je n'ai pas vécus !!!

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    1. C'est cool, hein? Il y aura beaucoup de petits histoires! Merci pour tout! xo.

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  2. Did you notice the sign behind you ''Very Bad Trip 3"? Hope that wasn't the case, of course, but it was either an omen or good luck (as in 'break a leg'). Photos are funny things. Sometimes things are captured that we didn't plan or expect. ;)

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    1. Did you know that's the French title for "The Hangover"? Isn't that funny. They gave it a different English name other than translating hangover in French. I noticed the sign too and was going to comment but it was far from a bad trip as it was just a bit hectic! I wouldn't have had it any other way!

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  3. I also noticed that sign behind, hahaha, it adds to the atmosphere but I'm sure had nothing to do with the story.

    These pics are very, very cool.
    You look so young and cute they could be the photos from your First Communion.
    Keep them coming!

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    1. I was telling Priscilla above that this is the French title for the film 'The Hangover'. I find it so funny that they gave it another name in English! Apparently, "La gueule de bois trois" wouldn't have worked!

      Thank you for your comment. I felt super young running down the halls of the metro station! I'm glad you're enjoying the stories...I have a few more installments queued up. : )

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  4. HAHAH!! Two movies I love. Now if "Mrs. Robinson" would have been playing on the train, you would have been set. Hope your wedding day was all you wanted!! Here's to a happy life!!

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    1. Yes! It was SO "Mrs. Robinson". I had this song in my head as well as "The Ballad of John and Yoko". It was certainly a frantic experience with European travel. : )

      Thank you for commenting Lisa!

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  5. This post is only the beginning of your wedding adventure and I'm already tearing up in happiness!

    Am waiting for the next installments with bated breath

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    1. Thanks Usha! Now it's your moment. I look forward to living through your happiness and adventures of another multicultural wedding!

      I'm glad you're enjoying the posts. It means a lot. : )

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  6. MORE MORE MORE- I want more recaps! Thanks for the mention, i totally forgot that moment! that also could've ended up a la Sixteen Candles: "she took a muscle relaxer?" "Try FOUR...." ahahahaha

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    1. Recaps!!!! I'm having fun revisiting these little slices of our magical weekend. What a bonding experience we all had... :*)

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  7. I had no idea that you gals had to hop on a train on the very day of the wedding! I thought you would have gone the day before or rented a car! No wonder you were stressed out!

    But that'll make a much better story later for your kids!;)

    And you on the subway in your wedding dress! How so very Rhoda of you (another kickass New Yorker!):)))

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    1. Driving would have been so much more chaotic. The Periph is always backed up, so we figured the train was a guaranteed one hour commute with no risk of a Manif' or accident delaying us. We didn't stay out there the night before because I still had guests coming into Paris Friday afternoon who were staying at my apartment. Training it the day of was the only option. As crazy as it was, it was a lot fun. Once we were all on the train, we all looked at each other and started laughing like 'what just happened??'.

      It was a bonding weekend for me and my friends as much as it was for me and Aurel...and that's exactly what I wanted. :*)

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  8. These could be the best wedding pictures ever taken. So fashionny and so sweet. And the backstory - priceless! Congratulations from a long time lurker who is very happy to see you get a happy ending/beginning!

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    1. Hi Nicola!

      Thank you!! I'm so glad you like the photos! I really like them too. These aren't even the professional ones, these are from point and shoots. I can't wait for the fancy ones to come!

      Thank you so much for reading my blog and for taking the time to comment. I hope you like the rest of the wedding recaps. : )

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  9. AnonymousMay 24, 2013

    I'm loving this story. It's like a great book. And that last picture brought tears to my eyes. So full of anticipation and promise. I can't wait to hear more. Congratulations!!!
    xoxo
    Selena

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    1. Thank you Selena! I'm so glad that you are all enjoying these stories as much as I am writing them, and as much as we did experiencing them. It was such a special weekend that I never thought I'd ever experience...

      Thank you for the well wishes!

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  10. Oh these pictures are so you. Ella in her (lovely) wedding dress complete with veil and vanity case, rushing to her wedding on the metro followed by her mates complete with rolling suitcases!

    You couldn't make it up!

    So funny!

    Yes I also noticed the sign. Very apt!

    Love Denise

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    1. It was very me. That's what all my friends were saying. It was crazy and I was getting a little frantic but I made it up to all of them by getting them well-buzzed and fed. Thinking about it now a week later brings tears to my eyes...

      Thanks for commenting, Denise. : ) xo.

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  11. Yup, I suspect this is the only time in your life you're ever going to be able to do that particular run of shame lol I'm sure the old lady just wanted to share ;o)

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    1. The old woman kept making eye contact with me the entire ride and would make little gestures and smiles but never actually said anything! Maybe she did want to share! Hahaha, yeah I don't see this ever happening again. I'm glad I got to live it once!

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  12. Funny, I didn't think of the runaway bride angle! It just wouldn't have been a Very Ella Wedding without a little bit of chaos though :)

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    1. Thank you so much Gwan!!! You really helped me out that day - everything from packing my overnight bag, getting bubbly and blending in with my friends (which is NO EASY FEAT!). You were such a special addition to the entire experience. Thank you for coming. xo. : )

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  13. From what I can see in the photos, you look beautiful. I'm loving the dress! And I'm glad you ended up making it there! I would have been freaking out as well!

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    1. Thank you so much Shannon! I'm glad we made it too! I really thought I was going to miss it because apparently the office was closing right after our ceremony and you know how the French are...they would have closed it, so I was in a manic rush. Total madness!

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  14. I laughed at "a pack of loud American girlfriends and their roller-board suitcases in tow" so it was great to then see the photo evidence, with you leading the charge. What a great post, Ella! You are soooo unconventional - I love it. Looking forward to more! GM x

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    1. There is photo evidence thanks to your daughter who was such a great help to me during these chaotic moments! She is amazing and was so happy that she was able to be a part of the day (because at first, we weren't sure).

      I'm glad you're enjoying the posts! I have more to come! : )

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  15. You look so poetic in the metro station with your veil and suitcase! I'm glad that Gwan got all of the behind-the-scenes photographs so that we could share in your mad dash. In spite of the stress, it looked like the train ride was definitely memorable. As was your wedding! My eyes kept tearing up during the ceremony as I watched Aurélien gazing at you with his eyes full of love. You two were made for each other!

    It was great to finally meet your mom, although maybe I went a bit too far when I hugged her. It's just that I feel as if I "know" her after reading your blog for the last couple of years. Please tell her I'll try to restrain myself in the future.

    I look forward to reading your next post about the wedding and reliving a wonderful day!

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    1. My mom is such a huggy person! I'm sure it didn't even phase her at all. I'm glad that you got to meet her and that in the end you and your family came! I'm so sorry about the weather, it was such a joykill for the vin d'honneur. I hope you had a good time and few drinks at least. : )

      Gwan was such a rockstar the day of! She helped me out AND was photo documenting! She went above and beyond that day, but not only that, I was so happy to have her be a part of the celebration, as well as you. : )

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  16. Now that's a cool wedding story! Veil on, hair done, bottle in hand cruising along on the train to get to your wedding... it's classic Ella Coquine :)

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    1. Thanks! It was a great memory shuffling through the station. A bit stressful but once we were settled in we were all good. I'll never forget this morning...what a trip. : )

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  17. AnonymousMay 27, 2013

    Such pretty photos! They bring out a bit of emotion for me as well.. So glad that Gwan captured these!

    I am surprised you had commuted on your day- I told F and he said, "If I had known I would have offered to drive her!" hehe. The train voyage in your wedding dress and girlfriends is really sweet & unique though!

    Just read Duchesse's comment- exactly!
    (You're right Lisa, the Periph had some serious traffic that day! Although we left Vincennes early, we arrived a tad late b/c of it!)

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    1. I didn't want to risk the traffic. Every time we drive it takes so much longer than the train, and now that I hear the traffic was bad, I'm pleased with my less-than-glamorous choice!

      We were also going to stay out in Moret the night before but I had guests coming in on Friday that I was hosting, so that was out too. Having a wedding with guests coming abroad definitely brought the stress factor up a notch, good stress, but nonetheless stress!

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