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Staying Positive.


Do you guys remember the movie Ghostbusters 2? I do and have to say, this is one of my favorite flicks of the late 80s. I love it, and not just for the ghost busting action, but because I like the message that it sends. Aside from the power of Vigo; the evil 17th century Carpathian trapped in the painting, the story centers around the city being invaded by bubbling pink slime brewing in the sewers. The emotionally charged slime becomes more aggressive as it responds to the negativity of the city's inhabitants.

From time to time, I think of this film where I am reminded of the negativity that seems to be progressing in the world, and just how powerful it is. Is it just me or is the hostility heightening each year? It happens everyday. It can be anything from what some would consider trite, like this new-found acceptance to dangerous driving. Suddenly going ten miles above the speed limit is too slow, and leads to aggressive honking and tailgating. Having lost an aunt to a speeding car, I take road rage and the importance of etiquette extremely seriously, and have zero tolerance for the selfishness of others who are in a rush. Not everyone will get to go first, we are not all on the same time, and red lights happen. These shouldn't be surprises. If it's not on the road, it's now in the classroom. The extreme level of bullying happening in schools today make me grateful that I am no longer there. I doubt I'd be who I am today if I had been subjected to what goes on in schools now. These poor kids. And lastly, the random and heinous acts of violence like the horrific events that took place last weekend. I used to not notice this negativity as much in Paris, but the recent shootings in Toulouse and Norway remind me that Europe is not immune from this growing trend of hostility and violence. Seriously, what is happening in the world?

All of this has got me thinking. Last year, my goal was to stay positive during all the drama and inconveniences that I was faced with and I did, except for one situation. Let me preface that this was hardly a tragedy, just life kicking me in the butt. So in taking the first step, and practicing what I preach, I am doing something that I have been thinking about for a month or so. I have decided to remove the full name of the summer sublet who robbed me and trashed my home. We're done with this part of the program. I have fully exorcised that experience and would like to move on. Hopefully like me, she has learned her lesson, but I am relinquishing responsibility as it is not longer my job to reinforce to her why what she did was completely wrong; something she never really seemed to grasp as she was solely focusing on herself. While she still owes me money for the damages she had done to my place, I know that I will never see it, and fighting her for it is not worth my time and energy. Hopefully, this experience has taught her to think twice before creating another scandal because we all know that this wasn't her first rodeo.

While the robbery is in no way in comparison to real tragedies, I figured if I have the power to voluntarily let go of one evil weighing me down in my life, why not use it? So here is to removing an old demon I was never even attached to, and saying goodbye. If I can help it, I don't see myself ever adding more to the story. The end.

My heart goes out to the victims and their families who are experiencing an inconsolable pain. A pain derived from the ultimate act of negativity created by a heartless murderer who thinks he is living in a comic book. My thoughts are truly with you all. Stay strong during this devastating time.

16 comments:

  1. Thank you for writing this post Ella. It came at exactly the right time. I've been stuck in a spiral of negative ju-ju at the moment and reading this line, "if I have the power to voluntarily let go of one evil weighing me down in my life, why not use it?" is EXACTLY what I needed to read. You're a star x

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    1. You're so very welcome Sara Louise. Thank you for your comment.

      I wish you luck in sorting out your situation. : )

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  2. a prayer for them all... and for us all too

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    1. Si, grazie mille, April.

      Inoltre...grazie per il "link" al tuo blog...è molto simpatico. : ) Tu sai che ho parlato italiano (sono italiana-americana!) ma quando ho imparato il francese, ho dimenticato! Che peccato! (scusa il mio italiano fa schifo!) :)

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  3. Congrats on letting it go, it's not easy! I did wince reading about your pre-robbery optimism over meeting Barbara. It is very difficult to stay positive and not lose faith in human nature, especially after terrible events like this weekend.

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    1. Thanks, Gwan! Yeah, those back "Barbara" posts are a little creepy. I'd like to say that I had no clue what she was all about, but it's not true. I felt that there was something off when I first met her but just thought it was just my paranoia. That whole ordeal taught me a HUGE lesson of listening to your inner voice!

      I agree it is hard to stay positive when something as tragic (and unnecessary!) like CO happens. I know I've been on edge ever since. I really feel just terrible for the families...

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  4. Staying positive can be so hard especially these days when we live in a world where people only care about themselves, are lovers of money, have no kind of natural affection, etc... Yes! Hostility gets worse each year. Actually, now its by the day back in May my coworkers friend got set on fire during a robbery by someone who was trying to gather up enough money to buy drugs. Thats just one example of the ugliness i have seen these past 6 weeks. After all that I got a little anxious so I decided to stop reading and watching negative news reports etc... even though its not always possible and I even stopped hanging out with ppl who bring negativity. Prayer and faith have also helped me out a lot in staying positive. I am glad you let go of the sublet....don't you just feel so much better?

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    1. So it's not just me who is noticing this epidemic of anger, selfishness, impatience and rage going on in the world...Good to know that I'm not the crazy one.

      You did right. Control the negativity around you, and let go of people who don't enrich your life. So cliche, yet so true.

      And yes, I do feel better that I let go of her and got her skank name off my blog! Ha!

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  5. Hey miss, this is a wonderful post. Thank you for your thoughtfullness and honesty. I have left a little blog award for you over at my place. Bisous...

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    1. Thank you so much Heather! That means a lot coming from you. I really do admire your blog, so thank you. : )

      Ooooh an award! Yay!!! Sunshine! Thank you again! xo.

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  6. AnonymousJuly 26, 2012

    Thank-you for this post Ella... I can relate and still have trouble letting quite a few things so. I also have had the same things on my mind for a while now.. And about school.. I know quite a few teachers and I hear the craziest stories.. not to mention everything in the news from ever corner of the world... It is often quite a job just to stay positive. I feel like I end up creating a 'new world' in my head.. one that makes me smile quite often, often going out of my way to help people, taking in all the amazing beauty in the world and wanting to paint it and show it to others... I guess it's better than dwelling on the negatives! Bad moods and dwelling does come out from time to time, and that's OK, but we need to keep it in check. I love how you started the post about the pink slime in Ghostbusters.. brilliant !

    Gros bisous xxxxx

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    1. You're welcome. Thank you for appreciating it...and for understanding my pink slime reference! I don't want to make light of these tragedies. I just can't help but think of this movie when all of this negativity seems to be more and more the norm. Maybe a little pink slime to remind us to stay positive would do us some good!

      It's sad and infuriating what is going on in the world today, I figured if I can do one teeny tiny bit to alleviate some negativity, it would be a good start.

      Barbara should take note.

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  10. OMG I HAVE JUST SPENT THE LAST 30 MINUTES READING ALL YOUR BARBARA ROY POSTS!!! (With my aghast mother and middle sister next to me!) Sorry for the all caps but my shock cannot be expressed otherwise. This girl deserved everything that came her way! I'm glad to read that you have moved on from this horrible chapter but I still hope that one day you will manage to get your money and your things back.

    I love how you have gone through this with your head held high and your heart still strong. :)

    x Milla

    (http://www.littlepiecesoflight.com/)

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